#Susan-Walters is an active Reddit user, frequently advising people how to escape from #intimate-partner-abuse.
on 02025-09-16“Brent [Dill] sexually abused me [Elizabeth] over the course of our year-and-a-half-long relationship. At the start of our relationship Brent was 39 and I was 19 (I’ve had healthy age-gap relationships, but in retrospect I think this was an unhealthy one); (...) Brent pressured me into #BDSM scenes with gear I hated, pain and discomfort well past my tolerance, insufficient safety protocols, and sometimes drug use. There were dozens of times that he verbally pressured me into an intimate situation I wasn’t comfortable with, saying that if I loved him or cared about him I’d do it. There were fewer times, but probably still dozens, that he didn’t ensure I had a safeword when going into a really heavy scene, or disrespected my safeword when I gave it.” written in September 02018. Holy shit. But it gets worse: “Throughout the relationship he talked about how his ex had submitted much more completely and usefully than me, and how it would be great if I didn’t believe I had the option of escape, if I didn’t have a safeword or social support network. (...) The argument escalated really fast, until he was banging his head on the windowsill. Our landlord had complained before about us making too much noise in that room in the evenings; in the moment, I decided that the best way to get him to stop really fast was to punch him in the face (and that this was okay because he had a history of hurting me with dubious consent / he’d been giving dubious consent for months with the “hit me” comments). Immediately after it was obvious to me that I’d been wrong and used terrible judgement, (...)” #intimate-partner-abuse
on 02025-09-15