Playboy columnist Kelly is alarmed that young men are skipping showers and wearing unwashed shirts for #dating in hopes of turning women on with their pheromones.
on 02026-09-08#clickbait #video listing the top 10 least attractive hobbies men can have according to women (for #dating, I suppose, but the source of the poll is unclear): 1. The Manosphere. 2. Gambling. 3. Porn. 4. Arguing online. 5. Funko. 6. Marijuana. 7. Clubbing. 8. Cigars. 9. Crypto. 10. Makeup. And the most attractive: 1. Reading. 2. Foreign languages. 3. Playing instruments. 4. Cooking. 5. Woodworking. Oh, this is from the Date Psychology blog. They didn’t really add any content in the parts of the video I actually saw, just a bunch of talking-head filler.
on 02026-07-27Ozymandias Brennan summarizes #dating books’ advice.
on 02026-06-26#video #toread about creepy (?) hugs. #toread #dating
on 02026-04-15Gay terminology I wasn’t familiar with: “Power bottom: A dominant person who prefers to be on the receiving end of anal #sex.” #dating
on 02026-04-09#comic guide to three unusual fetishes that YouTube is full of porn of: body inflation, macrophilia/microphilia, and wetlook. Drawn by Trudy Ryan, who also draws Oglaf. #dating
on 02026-04-07#video of #Saaniya Abbas on #dating in #Dubai, on Raj Against The Machine. Just talking heads I think. #toread
on 02026-04-05#dating surveys suggest that most women under 40 wish men approached them more. “Most men who approached in person received contact information or went on a date. A little less than half had sex. However, only about 13% ended up forming a long term relationship.”
on 02026-04-03#history of #dating in the US: “While a small study in 1940 and 1941 found some peer disapproval of going steady, by 1960 it was widely accepted and only a small minority of peers disapproved.[2] Contemporary studies found that going steady was viewed as a stage toward marriage by some participants, while to others it was a common social behavior with no goal of marriage.[2] (...) A 1951 book, Profiles of Youth, called going steady “a national problem”, ...”
on 02026-01-06#video by ex-alt-right Hungarian "Adam Something" saying that #Andrew-Tate and his ilk are filling a void of “instructions” that insecure young boys are looking for, just that the instructions they get are “stupid and harmful”, so he’s promoting his own 90-page Google doc #dating guide. Somewhat to my surprise, he still recommends asking for phone numbers, which I thought was maybe passé, but the video is from two weeks ago. Unfortunately he sort of falls into the trap of trying to reduce social interactions to defined procedures, hierarchical lists of bullet points. This is still probably an improvement over Andrew Tate advice I guess. #politics
on 02026-01-06a pseudonymous guy who claims to have been extremely promiscuous gives #dating advice (for het men) which mostly sounds sort of reasonable, things like telling women you’re attracted to them (but escalating gradually), asking them out, being very willing to take no for an answer, don’t be ashamed, be curious about the women you’re connecting with, make sure they don’t regret seeing you, date people who are not unreasonable, etc. #psychology
on 02026-01-06Chesed writes about #dating rapists (who didn’t rape her). “His fingers reached under my panties. No, I told him, squirming. I want to keep them on. He slipped his fingers under the panties, fingering me with them on. I wiggled around, unsure what I wanted, unsure what he would do.”
on 02025-09-15“The Gale-Shapley algorithm is often used to create a stable matching in a market with two-sided ranked-order preferences. What might not be so obvious is that the algorithm favors those who make the first move. The proposers/askers start from the top of their list and move down, and so they get matched to their highest-ranked preference who will accept them.” #dating
on 02025-09-15Eudai argues that women who ask men out will have better #dating lives than women who don’t. Mentions getting a photo of her rated 6.5/10 for attractiveness by "Photofeeler". “Hey, I think you’re cute and am interested in going on a date with you. Are you free this Saturday afternoon to go on a walk around [place] and maybe come back to my house afterwards to nonsexually cuddle afterwards? Sorry if this is awkward, if you’re not interested I’m happy to proceed with our friendship as if I never asked. :)”
on 02025-09-15Ozymandias Brennan on the social dynamics of #dating and how, in particular, shy people often accidentally reject people who try to flirt with them
on 02025-09-15Ozymandias Brennan on how people in #polyamory should give other people dating advice, but mostly about how people’s picture of the #dating pool is distorted by strong filtering they don’t know they’re doing
on 02025-09-15#Argentina #video on #racism #forMina. “Keenan” is mostly just talking to a camera and discussing #dating in nightclubs and whatnot, saying he doesn’t know much about prostitution. He also doesn’t know what a bidet is. Basically his conclusion on racism in Argentina is that it doesn’t exist.
on 02024-10-18